Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever been a stripper?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever been to a strip club.
Oh—you wouldn’t date a girl who’s ever done porn?
In that case, I wouldn’t date a guy who’s ever watched porn.
You’re the reason we exist.
You’re the demand to our supply.
If you disdain sex workers, don’t you dare consume our labor.
As they say in the industry, “People jack off with the left hand and point with the right.”"
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Yesterday I was in the middle of an all day crying session, but I really really needed to get my niece a gift for her birthday. With no other option but to leave my apartment, I went to Build-A-Bear in a full on cry mode and I am SO happy I did. I built the perfect nurse-firefighter bear AND all the employees completely ignored the fact that I was crying during the whole building process. I cannot tell you how much I appreciated that. My tears were never addressed! Even as I handed my soggy signed credit card receipt to the cashier, it was only returned with a smile and a ‘Have a nice day’! If you want to be treated like a real person despite your overflowing tears - go here immediately!!
crit fans: this blog reviews crying places in nyc, highly useful
some people are straight. some people have blogs. that’s just the way the world is.
"If white people are so privileged why is there a Black Entertainment Network and no White Entertainment Network?"
"Men don’t have privilege, there are women’s only gyms!"
"Why isn’t there a campus centre for straight/cis people!?"
SAME REASONS WHY IN MARIO KART YOU DON’T GET BLUE SHELLS OR LIGHTNING BOLTS WHEN YOU’RE ALREADY IN FIRST PLACE, ASSBAG.
Pretty heartbreaking. These beautiful and bright students deserve so much better. Above I included some of the photographs (there’s many more) of Black women who are students there because I think it’s important to point out how racism is not only impacting Whites’ perception of their intelligence but also how White people approach their appearance as well, in gender-specific ways. This is heartbreaking to me albeit not surprising. The myth that working hard = happy payoff is a fairy tale. Racism is ubiquitous.
I really wish them the best with their education and the ability to navigate these microaggressions and overt acts of racism. This stuff increases stereotype threat and impacts mental health and health which impacts performance. I want the best for them. Much love. ❤
In Star Wars, a boy can grow up to be a knight or a wizard, but if you’re a girl, you have one good role model- one good, sexy role model- but you better be born a princess or good at space hooking, cuz those are your options [x]
"I’ve never been told to die in quite so many ways’"
This is just one of the many levels of hypocrysy and double standard when it comes to women. The comments demonstrate another:
1. Person is outed against her will
2. People complain she is an attention seeker when she publicly voices her feelings on it
leaps-and-rebounds asked: Hi, I was just reading something you wrote about people adding unwanted sexual dialogue to things you say and write and I really want to thank you because I'd never considered it like that before. Do you consider sexual innuendo in the same realm? (ie. taking something someone said and making it sexual). Sorry if you already addressed this in your post. Thank you.
Hi, thanks for reading and I think I already answered this question in How White Supremacy Creates Paternalism and Violence In “Sex Positivity” Discourse, but I’ll answer it again with an example because this is important.
If the conversation is NOT sexual and especially if I do NOT know you where we have a relationship online where I know you do not intend harm, then yes, I consider it the same. If you overheard me at the mall mentioning something that could be taken sexually, would you walk over and make that statement sexual? Why does being online change boundaries, respect and restraint? (And actually men during street harassment and White women during their notorious conversation domination attempts offline do this to me.)
And again as I discussed in the essay, me being a Black woman cannot be stripped from why this is happening to me. People think they have a right to degrade me and I should like it because of the dehumanizing stereotypes associated with Black women’s sexuality; in the essay I mentioned "asexuality, queerness and heterosexuality for Black women is viewed as “the mammy,” “the deviant” and “the Jezebel” in the White Gaze."
I especially consider this the same when the people who do this to me KNOW my boundaries, regularly gobble up every post on my blog and are practically replying to my every tweet. Then I believe that their intention is to harm and passive aggressively “punish” me for being an ace, as I mentioned in the essay. And then, as I also mentioned in the essay, some think if I have a conversation that includes sexual politics or jokes (as being an ace doesn’t necessarily mean avoiding sex or sexual conversations that are consented to) with someone I consented to have such a conversation with before, they then have a right to FORCE me to have a similar (or violently worse) conversation later and force sexuality into an unrelated topic.
Consent…does not only apply to sexual intercourse. It’s a way of navigating interactions with human beings in general.
Besides, what is innuendo? That is open to interpretation. For example, once I mentioned that I like writing but I hate what comes after “Publish” such as the trolling and abuse. Someone turned that into a conversation about liking sex but not STDs. How in the sam hill fuck was what I said sexual innuendo? It wasn’t. They simply decided to FORCE and make it so.
This should answer your question, I believe. Take care.
>My privilege may make me more comfortable engaging with Tumblr “social justice” discourse, not less.
>Seeing as I have like ALL the privilege, I’m only writing this because people with less privilege than me have recently been critiquing the “Tumblr social justice” memeplex, specifically from their position of disprivilege. These are people who seem to know the system quite well, as opposed to the odd “female/black/gay equalist/real justice blogger” or whatever.
>”Tumblr social justice” as I’ve experienced it is one side of a weird split in the “radical” left between economic and environmental issues on one hand and race, gender and other social issues on the other. Groups like Adbusters take hardline stances on the environment, the economy and class while being incredibly problematic (the "post-autistic movement"); “SJW” will often take Ontario NDP-esque “environmentalists are elitists” positions borrowed from the right, and just ignore class for whatever reason.
>Virtually the only people on the left committed to a principled investigation of all these topics are Marxists. I don’t know how to feel about this.
>”SJW” is a functionally valid term. Not every person from an oppressed position in society who talks about their oppression on the internet does so using the common terminology or principles (“x”-ism = power + privilege, etc.) identified with “SJW”. On the other hand, at this point it’s clearly loaded and problematic.
>It doesn’t seem fair that the movement commonly known as “social justice” should need a label, but the way a lot of people tend to identify their particular views and opinions with entire demographics, or the entire range of non-bigoted thought, often seems unhelpful.
>There is no strict set of rules. Everybody tries to act as if there is one which is a noble project. Everybody also tries to acknowledge their own hypocrisy which is also noble, but sometimes they don’t succeed. For example re: cultural appropriation, I’ve never seen a definition of this applied consistently. White people using AAVE is appropriative but white people rapping rarely is. Wearing a culture’s clothes is always appropriative but making and selling their food rarely is. Being Buddhist is appropriative even though it’s a soteriological religion that makes universal claims, Drawing, cosplaying or being obsessed with anime is only appropriation in a couple of specific forms that are “OK” to look down upon - some big-name “SJW’s” are worse weebs than me (e.g. fireworkcomic draws left-to-right manga not set in Japan where everyone still has Japanese names for some reason). It’s one thing when people critique problematic things and admit that they participate in others, but another when the things people say make you an “objectively terrible person” are not necessarily worse than the things they do. Which seems to happen often.
>This may be unavoidable at some level, but a lot of these contradictions seem like problems it could benefit the movement to look at and at least try to solve, more for its own peace of mind than in the interest of an abstract “coherence”. Which it might be easier to do if the movement/opinions within it could be treated as such - as an often highly abstract attempt to represent and deal with a set of underlying problems in society - rather than ~basic human decency~ or a set of obvious things that everyone should know by default.
>People seem more interested in letting the community check everyone’s privilege for everyone else than in checking their own privilege relative to each other.
>This may have to do with the “whatever reason” people ignore class - e.g. class privilege is the one shared by maybe the largest slice of the “social justice” community