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23rd Apr 2014

Mainsplaining
(reshared from The Bold Italic)
By Jessica Saia, photos by Tom Kubik
Styled by Heather Sanksy. Modeled by Kate Conneely and Chase Martinez.

It’s a tale as old as time: boy meets girl, they go to a bar, one suggests a game of pool, and the guy does that awesome “wrap around from behind” move to sexy-explain how to hold the stick right. It’s classic! And if Patrick Swayze taught us anything, it’s that the way to a woman’s heart is to do that from-behind-head-to-toe-grind thing, even if it means never finishing a mug. (Vase? Plate? Who even knows what she was making– barely anything before a manly ghost came along to help.)

Like I always say, nothing pairs better with condescending “lessons” than a hearty serving of full-body touching. But guys, don’t restrict yourself to just billiards and pottery; every day is filled with opportunities to firmly press your boner into someone else’s butt cheek! To illustrate just how welcomed and sensuous the experience can be for a woman, look at all these wonderful examples of physical mansplaining in daily life. Note her face! That is the face of aroused gratitude and definitely not the face of someone who is irritated to the verge of physical violence.

23rd Apr 2014
siopold:

miracleyangwenli:

siopold:

the funny thing about dril posts is that they actually do have a structure to them– they hit a kind of conceptual caesura halfway through, a point where there’s no inevitable logical connection between what’s been said and what’s still to come. here, the first sentence didn’t need to result in the second, yet it’s not “lol random” either; the speaker is angry about his boss’ draconian ferret-kissing policy, and reacts in kind, and even the reference to a “screen saver” reminds us that we’re in an office. it’s a narrative progression that, despite having an internal logic, alienates its punchline from its setup. who the hell is this person?

one thing i love about @dril posts is how they all seem to take place in a universe that is somewhat like our own, but with the habitus of white middle america taken to a bizarre, absurd, but strangely logical conclusion. take this one, for instance: 

so we have our setting: a security guard protecting the american flag in the betsy ross museum, something almost archetypically american and middle class. but once again the first part, or setup, for the punchline, “fucking the flag,” careens the joke into an alien punchline that still, given the setting, makes sense. @dril’s security guard character imitates a sort-of cop-talk, the banter of a security guard, “buddy, they wont even let me fuck it”. you can imagine a similar response from a guard at any museum, but we’re talking about Fucking the American Flag, here. i really love @dril. 

it’s astonishing that a human being thinks of those posts. some person, someone out there whose existence we have to infer, because all we know is that those posts occur and they must be coming from somewhere. “the @dril​ tweeter” resonates as “the beowulf poet” does, except beowulf (which i’ve only read in translation, so i’m not an authority) has never made any use of the english language as baffling and sublime and somehow primally interlaced with the stuff of human consciousness as “IF THE ZOO BANS ME FOR HOLLERING AT THE ANIMALS I WILL FACE GOD AND WALK BACKWARDS INTO HELL.”

siopold:

miracleyangwenli:

siopold:

the funny thing about dril posts is that they actually do have a structure to them– they hit a kind of conceptual caesura halfway through, a point where there’s no inevitable logical connection between what’s been said and what’s still to come. here, the first sentence didn’t need to result in the second, yet it’s not “lol random” either; the speaker is angry about his boss’ draconian ferret-kissing policy, and reacts in kind, and even the reference to a “screen saver” reminds us that we’re in an office. it’s a narrative progression that, despite having an internal logic, alienates its punchline from its setup. who the hell is this person?

one thing i love about @dril posts is how they all seem to take place in a universe that is somewhat like our own, but with the habitus of white middle america taken to a bizarre, absurd, but strangely logical conclusion. take this one, for instance: 

so we have our setting: a security guard protecting the american flag in the betsy ross museum, something almost archetypically american and middle class. but once again the first part, or setup, for the punchline, “fucking the flag,” careens the joke into an alien punchline that still, given the setting, makes sense. @dril’s security guard character imitates a sort-of cop-talk, the banter of a security guard, “buddy, they wont even let me fuck it”. you can imagine a similar response from a guard at any museum, but we’re talking about Fucking the American Flag, here. 

i really love @dril. 

it’s astonishing that a human being thinks of those posts. some person, someone out there whose existence we have to infer, because all we know is that those posts occur and they must be coming from somewhere. “the @dril​ tweeter” resonates as “the beowulf poet” does, except beowulf (which i’ve only read in translation, so i’m not an authority) has never made any use of the english language as baffling and sublime and somehow primally interlaced with the stuff of human consciousness as “IF THE ZOO BANS ME FOR HOLLERING AT THE ANIMALS I WILL FACE GOD AND WALK BACKWARDS INTO HELL.”

22nd Apr 2014

We (Alt Crit) asked some questions of Rye Silverman (chicklikemeblog on tumblr) after viewing the original post above and some of the responses. Here’s the followup:

What was the official response from OKCupid like? How did you feel about it?

The first response I got from them was slightly dismissive feeling, it was literally a message that just said “Thanks for your feedback” and I was like, oh so they don’t care at all.  Without my responding again, however, one of their representatives wrote me another message the next day and assured me that they also felt that there was a need for nonbinary identifications on their site, but that they wanted to perfect it and do it right rather than just adding “Trans” as a third option and leave it at that.  I agree that doing so would not benefit anyone, so if they truly are working on it, and are committed to doing it right, then I’m feeling pretty good about it.  We’ll have to wait and see. 

What was the response like from sharing your letter on tumblr and other places?

Like anything of substance there was good and bad.  The post I shared on Tumblr took off like wildfire.  Most of my posts cap out at best at a few hundred notes, but as of this interview this one has gotten 10,920 notes.  So that’s the good.  The bad is that I discovered that there’s a Reddit page called “Tumblr in Action” that acts like a watchdog group for what they decide is all that is wrong with social justice on Tumblr.  So despite the fact that the vast majority of posts on my blog are outfit of the day shots, fashion inspirations, or reblogs of stuff like Doctor Who fandom, I became for a moment an example of all that is wrong with social justice activism.  But even though several people seemed to break that page’s own rule and engaged with me directly and attacked me in my comments, it was still pretty manageable compared to the positive support I got. 

What did make me bummed about the response though were the other trans people, or allies speaking on behalf of trans people, who presumed a position that I wasn’t taking.  A few responses said “But trans isn’t a gender,” or attacked me for suggesting that people should have to identify as trans.  I wasn’t saying either of those things.  In no way do I think anyone should have to self identify at any time unless they want to.  But people like myself don’t have a choice in the matter, and all I was asking from OkCupid was a way for me to not only list myself as trans, which like my critics rightly pointed out, can be done in the profile, but also to search for others who might also identify similarly, or to find people who are attracted to or open to a relationship with people like myself.  

Is there anything else you’d like to comment on about the trans/gender struggle and how it relates to the gay/sexuality struggle?

I mean it’s all kind of part of the same struggle, in my mind.  It’s the struggle to find a place in a world whose recorded history tries to hide us.  Naturally people love simple patterns, matched pairs of twos, but trans and gay people don’t fit that dichotomy.  

Is there anything you’d be comfortable talking about re: your personal experience outside heteronormativity using a site like OkCupid? 

I suppose it’s not all that different from my experience outside heteronormativity in dating outside of online dating. I rarely come across other trans people, let alone “nonbinary” trans people, let alone “nonbinary’ trans people who I have a mutual attraction with, so my dating pool tends to still mostly be cis women or men.  So whether it’s online dating or in real life it’s pretty complicated.  So just like in real life, my only real successes at finding a date are with someone who is willing to take a step outside of their own comfort zone, which is a rarity in dating. 

I live in L.A. where people think the dating landscape is much more liberal, but in response to my letter, OkCupid gave me one week of free “A-List” service which allowed me to narrow down my search to people who said “Yes” to a question in the match questions list that they would be open to dating a transgender person.  When I chose this option, my potential matches went from several hundred, to 8.  So the truth is, that even if OkCupid updates their algorithm, I’m hardly optimistic that it’ll be much of a solution for me.  

Thanks Rye!

21st Apr 2014
21st Apr 2014
21st Apr 2014
it’s as simple as that! go to it folks

it’s as simple as that! go to it folks

21st Apr 2014

gothichunny:

Taking/posting selfies is one way I try to remember I apparently ? occupy a Body

21st Apr 2014
21st Apr 2014
joshua espinoza on facebook
20th Apr 2014

Anonymous asked: Mtf right ?

gothichunny:

No. and Stop thinking about trans people in terms of “who they were” vs. who they are now

20th Apr 2014

gangrenousnecrosis:

neurotypicals talking about how mental illnesses/disorders don’t make u cool or special or interesting yet u all reblog our posts affected or shaped by our mental illnesses/disorders bc u… find them cool/special/interesting…… hm……. funny how that works………….

20th Apr 2014

vivianvivisection:

i have these male-gendered pants that i got for really cheap because they were a factory reject or something.

the reason they were sold as that, is because the pockets were small. The color was fine, there weren’t any holes, or manufacturing defects, it just had pockets like girl jeans.


So to recap, if it has small pockets, it’s ok for girls, but if they’re boy jeans, then it’s a factory flaw and not worth full-price.

18th Apr 2014
"a human having sex with a human is gay cuz they are both humans"
Source: julious jive
18th Apr 2014

askthebuffyfandomorluesmainblog:

( sorry for the crappy MS Paint, guys, i made this at like 1 am.)

I dunno, i feel like fictionsexuality is viewed as a silly or dumb thing and i wish people wouldn’t do that. it’s taken me a long time of thought and consideration to figure out what i am, and being immediately shot down when i try to raise any awareness on the matter feels…. well, shitty. i do understand the common association, but come on guys, is me adding the word to a post here or there (or hell just adding comments in the tags) really so bad? Please do take the time to read this, it would really mean a lot to me.

*Edit: i’ve just been informed that a better term for this is Schediaphile. Admitedly, this is probably easier to say in a sentence.

*Edit: yeah comparing this to Sealand was a bad idea. thank you, 1am brain.

mfw I thought this was gonna be some gross strawman version of comics explaining sexual identities

18th Apr 2014
thejogging:

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